I have been married to 4 different men.
In the beginning, I fell in love with a smoking, bad boy sporting a #23 jersey. And then I fell in love all over again to a doting father. In his 20s realizing that he was now a family man, he made the decision to drop his smoking habit for the sake of his health and his family. In our 30s, I realized I had married an ambitious restauranteur who would blaze a trail in the local food landscape. Along the way, he became a full-fledged entrepreneur and real estate developer. During this time in our marriage, we rarely saw each other. And as I enter into my 40s, I have found that I've married an avid outdoorsman-hunter and fisher. That means I have fallen in love with 4 different versions of the same man. After 20 years, I can confidently say Kang is still my soulmate.
This message is to offer hope to those who may be suffering from indifferences or marital strife. There is light at the end of tunnel. The devil dares us to keep trying. Keep going. I want you to know that the perfect marriage doesn't exist. Everyone works at it. There are times when we 'just don't wanna'. And I'd be lying if I didn't feel despair, loneliness, or desperation sometimes. For all the low times though, they are matched and exceeded by times of pure happiness. Keep trying, it's so worth it.